Hey Y’alls! As the year come to an end, i’m always mixed with so many emotions! I feel excited about the upcoming year and super reflective about the current year as well. I must say that 2018 blew my mind. I was just telling my sister how 2018 was definitely a year filled with surprises. There were so many unexpected things that occurred this year, and most of it was on my vision board from 2017! If you missed it, you can read it here. As always, I wanted to breakdown a few things I’ve learned along the way in 2018. I hope you enjoy this short post!
Career: Earlier this year I was fired from my corporate job, and I was devastated. However, I knew that it was soon coming to an end because of the mistreatment and disrespect. Thankfully I was laid off, and God showed me that being “terminated” was just a redirection. After being fired, I had to refocus. I had to disconnect from social media and focus on me. SIDENOTE: I may create a post about bouncing back after a work termination in the upcoming year. Anyhow, I started to take my film career and afterschool program seriously and dedicated all of my time/effort. Luckily, hard work paid off! REEL Oakland is now trademarked with the government, and I was featured on Forbes.com! I must say taking the risk of venturing into my own business was worth it, and to be honest it’s not an easy road to travel. What kept me focused was God, and James Brown song, The Boss! Listen to it. I still have ALOT of work to do, but it’s great to celebrate the small steps along the way.
Romance: The older I get I find it even more important to keep the romance department PRIVATE. I’ve been pretty open on this blog, but I’ve learned that keeping romantic relationships/dating/situationships/whatchamacallits/no titles/W-H-A-T-E-V-E-R on the low-low is VERY SMARY for me. On a serious note, I will say that 2018 taught me patience, trusting in God in this area, and going with the flow. Oh, and I can’t forget to mention, LISTEN TO GOD! Y’all I found myself looking at dating advice boards or YouTube for advice (BAD IDEA). As many of you all know, most relationships are unique and there’s tons of gray areas. I’m not perfect and sometimes I dab back into those boards, but what has helped me is turn to focus on what the Holy Spirit tells me. If you are still single and looking to mingle, enjoy your single season and don’t rush into anything…believe me! Not worth it. In short, be smart, be a lady and enjoy the moment! ❤
Self-Love: The previous section brings me to my last point…the power of self-love! Not in a narcissist behavior or attitude, BUT to truly love yourself and appreciate the season that you’re in. I cannot stress enough the importance of being true to you, and making sure your mental stability is A1. I highly recommending therapy sessions if your mind is cluttered and nothing else seems to help. This year I made sure I put myself FIRST and focused on my mental health too. For example, each Friday I made it mandatory to have a self-care day. I took myself to the movies, or had lunch, or had a mani-pedi, etc. At the same time, I drew myself closer to God, and learned how to let-go of things that were not in my control…this is a daily struggle y’all, but I’m willing to grow and learn. Use 2019 as a year to truly grow into WHO YOU WANT TO BE, don’t rush the process, and never ever settle for less than you deserve.
Anyhow, I wanted to thank-you all for reading this post and I hope it gave you some type of inspiration! Before I close this post, I wanted to say keep going no matter how “dark” your world may look. YOU WILL MAKE IT! No matter what. Thanks again for reading and let’s take over 2019!!
P.S: Here’s a snippet of my trip to Canada! Not sure if I will drop the full vlog, but let me know if you are interested!
xoxo,
anthonia onyejekwe 